Hi, yo, waaassupp, today I’m gonna have a little brain vomit and of course WordPress is the best place for this! I want to talk about adapting to change, more specifically for myself, but if you relate, thats also good to.
Over the last few years (not including 2020) I had what some may call a very unpleasant “situation ship” with someone which ended summer 2019. I always like to think that everything happens for a reason, and when you’re scraping the barrel trying to find a reason to get up in the morning, this is not as evident.
I think because of how low I got and how mentally challenging it was, I have said to myself that if there is ever the risk I will be made to feel the way I did before, I’m out of there. Walls up and I am running in the complete opposite direction. This can be good, protect myself and all that, but also bad because not every person is the same, not every situation is the same and I am not the same person.
When you’ve been used to a certain behaviour, actions and consequences for three/ four years, its not going to change in six months, no matter how freakin fantastic new people are to you. It’s about learning and communication which I am still trying to apply, and I need to keep reminding myself that its not the same now compared to a year ago and I need to enjoy it rather than waiting to get broken again. But also all my thoughts are a natural reaction. I without a doubt think I am better now then even a month ago with my thought processes and reactions, because as times goes on, and I feel more loved and cared for it, it’s over writing all the negative.
Adapting to new situations helps you grow as a person, but adapting to new people helps you come out of the other side stronger. I am incredibly happy, lucky, loved and grateful to now be surrounded by the very best. It’s obvious everything does happen for a reason.